Missing our Doggie

We had a dog named Cooper, alternatively known as Cooper-doo, Doodles, Doopy, etc.  She was a sweet dog and now she’s gone.

Cooper was about 8 when she came to us.  Her previous owner had an underwater mortgage and abandoned the house – and left the dog behind when she did so. She was rescued, dubbed “Cookie” and given foster shelter by a lovely older woman who wasn’t much on walking dogs but really efficient at feeding them. Cookie, having spent some time abandoned and hungry, made the most of each and every meal. Needless to say, much kibble and not much exercise soon had her ballooning.  The rescue organization tried several times to adopt her out and she was brought back each time.  Too hard to care for; fearful of large vet bills; dog can’t even get into the car unassisted – they all had their reasons.  Enter the Andersons.

One day at work, I noticed a poster in some of the common areas, spreading the news a “border collie cross” was looking for a home. There was a photo of a lovely black and white face, heavily photoshopped (as we later discovered) to look like a bright, alert and svelte canine. We had a border collie already who was bored and needed a companion and wow, wasn’t this a stroke of luck? I work in advertising. I should know better.  But I grabbed the poster and called Mike.

IMG_2532A few days later, we arranged to meet up with the rescue folks at a local pet supply place where they were holding an adoption fair.  We identified ourselves to the manager, who told us to sit tight while they went to fetch “Cookie”.  Imagine our surprise when this enormous, ottomon-with-ears came lumbering out! She was enormous – 93 pounds, as we’d later discover – and could barely stand unassisted.  The rescue lady told us her story and was forthcoming about the previous families who’d either refused her or brought her back after a few days.  We talked it over and decided we’d give her a go – not without some misgivings, believe me.  It was a measure of the rescue org’s desperation, I suppose, that they waived the usual adoption fee. They just wanted her to have a good home. We hoisted her up into the SUV and set off.

By the time we hit our driveway, 15 minutes later, we’d renamed her Cooper and began what would be her new life with us.  Many things were apparent quite early on. Cooper didn’t know how to play – either with us or with another dog.  She’d stare in wonder at thrown tennis balls, mystified as to what we could possibly want her to do about these spheres we were tossing. She rebuffed Sadie’s every effort to engage her in play, snapping and growling whenever Sadie got near.  What she did understand was eating – and it was quickly apparent that we had a challenge on our hands.

Cooper had apparently lived on a diet of cheese and gravy or something of that nature. We put her on a sensible diet of weightloss kibble and she was not impressed. She’d chow it down in moments and then look around, wondering where the bottomless bowl of crunchies she was used to seemed to be gone. We added in a couple of walks a day, upping the distance every week or so.  She seemed to enjoy the walks but came home winded and tired, ready for a nap. We still had to help her in and out of the car and up and down the steps in the house.

our two border collie mixes Sadie and Cooper.

Our dogs, Sadie and Cooper. That’s Coop on the right.

She was, however, a master in the art of food theft, as we’d soon discover. I fed her one evening and left the kitchen, only to walk back in a few moments later and spy Cooper, the dog who couldn’t get into the car unassisted, balanced on her hind legs, front paws on the countertop, scarfing down a plate of sausage left over from dinner. While we soon learned to leave nothing within reach, Cooper had all sorts of tricks to get what she wanted – or thought she did.  She’d go after anything that even resembled or smelled like food. Over the course of a few weeks, she ate lemon-scented wipes, a box of Aveeno oatmeal bath powder, and a small bottle of neats foot oil. This along with a full pan of lasagne, an entire chocolate cake and the contents of the trashcan – several times.  Sadie, who’d never considered behavior of this sort, soon learned how many wonders a kitchen trashcan could contain. 3 “dog-proof” cans later, we finally broke that habit.  Luckily, Cooper also had the constitution of a battleship because nothing she ate gave her a moment’s pause.

Cooper didn’t know how to be a dog and certainly didn’t know how to be a dog on a diet. This made for an unhappy canine.  What she did have, from the moment she walked into the house, was a champion and friend in my daughter Siobhan.  These two took a shine to each other immediately. Whenever Mike and I would express even the smallest amount of doubt about whether we’d be able to handle this critter, Siobhan was implacable in her insistence that she was here to stay.  We put Coop’s bed in Siobhan’s room and a bond was set.

Over the months and years, Cooper became a new dog.  She lost a good deal of weight – 40 pounds in all – and learned how to walk, run and play.  She discovered the joys of chasing balls, chewing sticks and romping with Sadie.  She chased squirrels and rabbits aIMG_3551nd unfortunately,  skunks – getting sprayed in the face for her trouble. She wasn’t a particularly bright dog but that just meant each day was a new adventure for her, full of new wonders like the portal in the kitchen that opened up and let her go outside! And back inside! Where there was food! She was the laid-back and passive balance to Sadie’s often overwhelming dominance. While Sadie needed to be in control of all in her domain, Cooper was content to let everyone have their space. Even if it was her space they took in the process.

We lost Cooper yesterday, 12/19/15.  Old age simply caught up to her.  We were lucky enough to have 6 wonderful years with her – years she probably wouldn’t have gotten if that photoshopped poster hadn’t caught my eye.  We’ll miss her terribly.  Maybe it’s the years as a vet tech but I don’t tend to go on about “rainbow bridges” and the like when we lose on of our beloved pets.  We make the right decisions for our creatures when the situation calls for that particular kindness and hope that someday, we’ll meet them again.  Cooper – you were a good dog. Thanks for sharing your time with us.

A not so funny road rage thing happened on our way to dinner…

Still trying to make sense of this so figured I’d write about it and see if that works it out.

Saturday night, Mike and I decided to go out to dinner at a place near our home. We were taking my car and I drove. Off we went, until I got to a road near our home that is so horribly pitted with potholes it’s nearly impossible to avoid them. I have a sporty sedan and low profile tires so I drive pretty gingerly. The high profile trucks and SUVs tend to barrel on through but I like my axels right where they are. I’d looked back and the only person behind us was way back and I had no one oncoming. So I slowed way done to weave through best I could; I hit a particularly bad patch so swung over partially into the oncoming lane (still no traffic) clears about a 7 foot stretch and then swung back into my lane.

As I’m swinging back, I glance in my mirror and suddenly there was someone RIGHT THERE. A guy in a blue SUV who had decided to, apparently, pass me on the right while I was over. He laid on his horn and got right on my bumper and was doing your basic douchebag moves. Mike may have offered up a salute of his own in response. I’m only going about 15 and am still working through the worst of the road.

Blue SUV then swings out, passes us and cuts right in front of me and jams on his breaks. I’m figuring he’s going to just be a jerk for a bit and then we all move on. Whatever.

But he doesn’t. Instead he stopped his vehicle and just sat there. I had cars behind us now and honking and a couple of vans coming the other way. So I can’t move and he sits. Mike, who clearly has more presence of mind than I do, gets his phone out and snaps a couple of pictures of the guys plate. After about a minute, he gets out of his SUV and walks towards our car, to Mike on the passenger side. He’s average height and build, dark complected and, I’d guess, late 30s or a bit more. He wasn’t rushing the car or anything – but he walked up.

Mike took his picture – at this point, we didn’t know what was going down. When he got right up to the car, Mike opened his door so that it forced the guy to back up and asked him what he thought he was doing. He yells that I tried to run him off the road (seriously?). Mike told him to back away and the guy keeps talking and now he’s focused on Mike. I tell mike to get back in the car – I want out of there! Mike sits but the guy comes closer so Mike snaps a picture of him. He screams “you can’t do that” and grabs Mike’s phone. So Mike has to get out of his seat again and grab the phone back while the guy is yelling at him “you can’t tape me did you just tape me…” I looked up and noticed a couple of cars stopped and watching; Mike yelled at him to get his truck the hell out of the way. He walked back, got in and pulled off.

But our story doesn’t end here, friends. He turned left onto the next major street and so did I. This one is 4 lanes so I stayed well back and let him go his way. Then we both end up making a right onto Telegraph. I went into the far left lane and he was a few lanes to the left. I wasn’t up to speed yet and he cuts over two lanes right in front of me and I’m thinking not again but he goes into the turn lane. Now the restaurant I was heading for was the next left, so I eased into the turn lane and look back to see Asshole has pulled back out into traffic and now is zipping up behind me. I sit for a bit till traffic is clear and cut across into the restaurant lot. And so does he. Shit.

I look at Mike and were both dumbfounded. He suggests I pull forward to the valet. We got out and the guy slowly cruises by. At this point, I wanted out of the car but we find out there’s a long wait and we’re discussing if we should stay when the guy slowly drives by again! I tell Mike I’m not comfortable with my car in the lot with this guy out there waiting to damage it. The valets say they can keep,it up front for a while. We dither a bit and decide to leave. We’d pointed him out to the valets in case they had any issues and we drove off. As we were pulling out, we saw him walking into the restaurant. That was the end of it. We had dinner elsewhere and went home.

I’m posting this because it was scary and horrid. It was like he was looking for something, for trouble. I don’t know if he’d planned to go to the same restaurant as us all along or if he was coming in to find us. Shudder.

I’m also posting in case he does anything in the future. We’ll keep the photos, just in case. I don’t know if he snapped any of us when he got behind us or circled us in the parking lot. But hopefully this is the end.

If you could, who would you choose to spend five minutes with?

I’m sure we’ve all seen this one; the lovely scene with the bench and a question asking who you’d most want to spend an hour with, right here, on this bench.

For me, it was quick and so easy – my parents.
For my mom, we lost her so suddenly. I never had a chance to say good bye. And I’d like to know how we did after she left – how well did my siblings and I do, trying to fill a bit of her role as,caregiver to our dad. I’d want her to know I’m stressed and too busy and worry about my kids but think I’m doing okay.

With dad, we did have a chance to talk. We knew his time was limited and we did our best to talk things through. But, in the end, I had to sign that paper in the hospital that said yes, stop life saving measures and begin hospice care. I signed for the surgery that made him worse, not better and I signed to let him die. Did I do that right? I’d really love to hear from hi that it was all ok. And he is with mom and he’ll be there for me.

What about you?

My thoughts on a page.

I saw this picture first on Aoibheanns Pink Tie facebook page . A fabulous charity helping families of children with cancer.  I originally saw it a few weeks ago, but the question it asks has stayed with me.
Who would I like to sit with?

Would I chose a famous figure from the past? Someone I really admired such as Nelson Mandela or Helen Keller? Or what about Jesus? That would surely answer a few questions of mine. If He turned up I’d know I’d better go visit a church!

To be given such an opportunity would be an honour, but amazing as it would be to spend time with these people, I would trade an hour with them for just five minutes with my Dad.Aoibheanns pink tie photo

In that five minutes I would want to sit with him and look out over the mountains of Allihies. As we would sit together…

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Tip-toeing back into the room, brushing away the cobwebs.

Yeah, so, gonna give this another go.  It’s time, right? I happily wrote for several about topics from favorite songs to parenting challenges.  Stayed fairly light. But then my dear MIL came to us to die and die she did: with the wonderful and caring support of Beaumont Hospice, Dianne lived out her last days happy and sneaking the occasional smoke until finally the morphine took her smiles, her smokes and eventually, softly, her last breath.  i wrote a lot about that. Deep stuff.  And then my son ended up hospitalized for other stuff just a month later.  And I wrote about that, too.  And it became a chore. And chores aren’t fun.

So I stopped. And I feel bad.  So I’m back.        Hi. (Waves)

I truly don’t want to make any sweeping statements other than I want to do this again, I liked it when I did, so I’ll give it a shot.  Ok?  And it won’t be all rainbows and water sprites – I still work 65-70 hours a week at a place that makes me nuts and I still have teenagers, one of whom is at MILITARY SCHOOL (there, I said it). So will have much to opine there too.  Anyways. No promises, no commitments.  I’ll just wander in occasionally and spout off, ok?


Cat on ledge jumps funny

Here we goooooooo….